Budget for your needs - it's really simple if you are not a rep and you are not a pro and are not shitting out thousands every day then budget for your needs. These items should be an honest line item on your personal budget. Also this is where I see problems with spouses arise because now it has become privy to the little lady that her dude is spending $1200 extra on gear a month when they are pinching pennies else where.
or you tell that little lady to stfu and go make a sammich with her 200 pairs of shoes and nails and hair did. lol