It's definitely parenting. Ass whoopins for bad behavior should be mandatory. I have a sister in law who parents by absentee ballot, meaning she views her kids as everyone else's concern. She never cooks, never watched them, always made excuses for their behavior and she is about as responsible as a mental patient with a Nuke button with her own life. 48 years old, fat as fuck, 3 kids, 3 dads, no job (or one she keeps for longer than 6 months) and lives at home whenever she gets kicked outta an apartment which is about 8 - 10 times a year. Used to call my wife asking to borrow money until she was cut off. Her oldest (daughter) is single, pregnant and back at home as now. The father is jobless, future-less and tried to beat her ass. Her oldest son is in job corps barely making it and calls us up all the time asking us to make an hour round trip to bring him deodorant, clothes and laundry soap even though they get paid a small allowance up there... we just cut him off because he snapped on my wife one day when she said she wasn't coming up there one time. I went up there to handle his ass, but he wouldn't come out of the building...go figure. Her youngest is a 12 year old thief/juvenile delinquent and for some fucking reason the wife wants him to come down for a week in the summer. Yeah, I'm gonna end up threatening him day one and probably beating his ass by day three. My wife has nice shit that I paid a pretty penny for and if anything suddenly evaporates into thin air... the debt will be paid in flesh. Bottom line is some people should not be allowed to reproduce, their reproductive organs should be cut out and hammered with a sledge, then burnt.
I literally despise 99% of my in laws, fortunately for me they are too strapped for cash to visit. Otherwise, they'd be at my door hands out, wanting something, eating everything and not showing any gratitude. Fuck'em. Fuck her sister and those fucked up lil' shitlets called her kids. Damn, this is better than going to the shrink!